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(episode 133) GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF SOBRIETY THIS YEAR

Updated: Jan 15, 2022


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The Gift of Sobriety (episode # 133)


Alright welcome back to getting sober…again

My name is Jae

And today’s topic is:

The gift of sobriety


But first,

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Alright let’s get started!


What should I ask for for Christmas?

Hmmmm….

To get internet famous? No…

A Football? No…..

An Official Red Ryder,

carbine action,

two-hundred shot range model air rifle!


No…I’ll probably shoot my eye out.


*GASP*

I Know!

I’ll give myself, my friends, my family, my co workers, and my future self…..

Something that I can’t buy in stores,

And have only heard about on YouTube….*wink*

SOBRIETY!**


I don’t know about you,

But the Christmas seasons is a big motivator for me

To be my best.


And in drunken year’s passed,

I’m sure that I was less than my best.


Doing whatever I had to do for money.

Struggling to make it as an artist.

Writing letters to my parent apologizing for not being able to buy them gifts that they deserve.


Getting by at jobs I didn’t particularly care for,

And trying not to gag at other people’s optimism

When they said things like:


*record two segments. One of me staring up and saying line 2*

  • It's Christmas time, let's cheer up and have fun!

NO

  • Spread joy and love, it's the Christmas season!

UGGGGGGHHHHH

  • Spread warmth and good cheer; it's Yuletide! It’s ANNOYIIING

Year after year,

#Wine and more #beer

Was the only recipe for me

For #Christmastime cheer. **


But let’s rewind.


My birthday happens to be on Dec 20th…


Yes…I’m a Sagittarius...I know…We’re the best…


Wait a minute…Jesus is a Capricorn?...


But I remember when I started this journey,

And started this channel in November of 2018.


I remember telling myself that:

This year I’m going to give myself

The gift of sobriety by the age of 38!


After all, I’m getting a little close to 40,

And I'm pretty sure you’re supposed to

“Have your shit together” by age 40

It’s in the bible right?

*pondering*


Fast forward 2 years after starting this channel,

And having 2 major YEAR long each, Detours..

Along my OWN sobriety journey.


And FINALLY, This year, I can finally say to myself,

I HAVE GIVEN MYSELF THE GIFT OF SOBRIETY!


The holiday season is a 5 week culmination,

Of consumerism at it’s finest.


Wondering and worrying about,

what everyone else WANTS,

Rather than focusing on our own NEEDS.


Coming to a final crescendo on Dec 31,

To the silent whining of tinnitus ringing in your ear,

The morning of Jan 1,

When we ring in the new year, WITH…

The first hangover of the new year.


New year, new me? I’ll start tomorrow.


Self Sabotage is a hell of a drug.


Adding Sobriety to the long list of ways,

that you’re going to self improve,

And adding more books,

to the "shelf improvement” collection….


With a laundry list of New Years resolutions

that look something like:

Lose weight

Practice mindfulness

Keto

Paleo

Low Carb

No sugar

Personal Trainer

A book a month

No caffeine…..

NO ALCOHOL… NO FUN!!! NO FAIR!!!

I need a drink


So I turned 37**

and I was sober for….a month until mid jan?


And then I drank for 10 out of 12 months in 2018.


Then my dad died in 2019,

and I managed to not drink for 1 month out of 12.


Somehow…..


But then…everyone’s favorite year by far….2020!!!


I watched my great aunt

Lose her entire face to basal cell carcinoma…


..and i drank all of that year too.


And yes, mind you,

while shamefully being the host of a channel called:

“Getting Sober…Again”...

YouTube'S friendliest community for no judgement sobriety right?

We’re not judging…


Sometimes you just get lost in the sauce for a few decades….


Anyway…where were we?...


OH YEAH! The gift of SOBRIETY!


All jokes aside get sober.

Just kidding.

But seriously… give it a shot!**

NOT THAT KIND


I think one of the major reasons why people don’t get sober sooner,

Is because they think that….

they won’t be able to have ANY fun.

It’s also A hard, and NECESSARY realization to come to,

When you realize that in your desire to live your life,

As judgment free as possible,

…yes I know…

…you’re an adult and you can do whatever you want…

…except quit drinking…right?

but maybe we can talk about that tomorrow…after your hangover goes away…


Did I mention that #selfsabotage is a hell of a drug?


It’s a hard realization that

MAYBE, you've lowered,

Or completely obliterated,

Your own standards,

And self worth.


And have to come to deeper truths and realizations like,

Not only is my life out of balance,

But the people in my life,

that I had hoped would trust and love me,

Coincidentally, by no fault of their own,

Found themselves entering into what now seems to be,

a poor business decision for…life.


Or…until death do you part.


There are wives hoping to get their husbands back.

Fathers hoping to get their daughters back.

Kids hoping to get their mother back.


And pardon my language but fuck presents,

if you’re not going to be present.


We remember being cared about,

Rather than electronic gadgets turned babysitters.


The older we get,

the more we understand that everyday is a gift.


And the quality of those days rely on the quality of your presence,

To make each day a little bit more manageable than yesterday


Your presence is a present.


Your #health,

your smile,

and that sparkle in your well hydrated eyes…**

Is a present.


The hope and confidence of knowing that,

in this life,

Which is already full of pain, suffering and concern,

When WE show up, WE show others,

that THEY have one less thing to worry about.


Isn’t that….. a gift worth giving?


When we re-establish our roles as partners,

parents,

Friends,

And family,


We quickly remind ourselves that,

we are stronger, together.


That THIS day, and this YEAR,

CAN be a reason to celebrate.


That right now, as we speak,

We are laying down the template for our future success.


Because after all,

#sobriety isn’t just for us,

It’s for everyone around us.


It’s being more reliable and trustworthy.

It’s being more focused and disciplined.

It’s pruning the old dead growth…

that’s keeping us from blossoming…

into the best version of ourselves,

next season.


And remembering that slow change,

looks the same everyday.


But one day, we’ll look back and say to ourselves:

I remember having to do my first 24 hours sober.

AND….My first weekEND #sober.

My first month,

Birthday,

Christmas,

And New years eve *wink*…sober…


And eventually look back at your before pictures,

of your past drunken self,

And be able to look in the mirror,

at your future self and say “I am living my best life, and life has never been better!”


Remind yourself, RIGHT NOW,

That you only have 2 more important milestones,

On this years calendar.


To say no to alcohol this #Christmas,

and say no to addictions this #newyearseve.


And comment below

that it IS going to be a #NEWYEAR,

And it IS going to be A NEW YOU!


And if that’s not worth giving this video a thumbs up,

I don’t know what it’s going to take!**


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And with THAT,

I want to wish you good luck on your sobriety journey,

And I will see you IN…the next video!







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